We've just launched the iOS app in the UK a week ago and people are already starting to create hangouts in London, so we decided to give you some tips for when you go out and meet the others on the app face to face.
Starting a conversation with someone you've never met before can be daunting. However, if you follow our tips, you'll find you feel a lot more confident about taking the plunge!
See new people in the right way
If you're in a room full of new people that you don't know, then view them as friends that you've not yet met. This helps to put you in the right frame of mind from the word go. Remember too that the nerves you feel are likely to be shared - most people feel trepidation at the prospect of starting to chat to someone they've never met before, so you won't be alone.
A simple hello and a big smile can go a long way. It signals to others that you are friendly and means that you're making the first move - taking the pressure off them and allowing them to enjoy reciprocating. The act of sharing a simple smile also relaxes you both.
Pick your person
Look for the person in the room who looks a little bit shy and who is obviously hoping someone will rescue them! If you make the effort to chat to this individual, you will very likely find the experience rewarding. After all, it isn't always the loudest person in the room who is the most interesting! Quieter people tend to be quirky and blessed with interesting observations - giving you plenty of things to discuss and a chance to have fun.
Great conversationalists have a genuine interest in other people. Ask questions about your partner's interests - what they like to do for fun, for example. Don't worry about resorting to typical questions such as the weather or their occupation if things are a little slow to get going. These questions are fairly standard for a reason - they are a safe way of chatting in an easy way and help you both to get into your flow.
Great conversationalists are invariably great listeners. They use engaged body language, ask questions to help the story along and maintain eye contact. Show real interest and don't simply wait to butt in with your own topics and views!
Don't get too heavy
Avoid controversial topics such as religion or politics, as they invariably get heated. These types of conversation are more appropriate when you know someone better and have a gauge of their views and personality.
Everyone has their own conversational style, but it pays to be mindful of the words you use and to be courteous when you meet someone new. Avoid using bad language, don't cut the other person off when they are speaking and make the effort to be polite and respectful.
Take it easy
Remember that a conversation is not a competition - you aren't being judged by a panel! It is something that you are sharing with your conversational partner, and should be enjoyed.
Don't try to fill all the gaps
Silence is also a form of communication, and it's worth embracing at the right points. Don't try to go over-board as though you are delivering a sales pitch. Relax, take a breath and allow the conversation to flow. When gaps occur, don't worry: there is something very enjoyable about a companionable look around the room together. And people watching is a great topic!
Keep your hands busy by holding a drink. It stops you from fiddling and looking awkward! Now take a deep breath, get the Enjoy Minded app and meet all those new friends who are looking forward to meeting you too!